Choosing My Own Chains

 

The following is a guest contribution by “Hope.”

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Choosing My Own Chains

 

The Rhetoric

  • “The shackles of Ms. Clairol… you are a slave to the cosmetics industry… a prisoner of Hollywood’s concept of beauty… if you don’t’ fit their standards you are nothing!  Allah subhanawata’ala gives you freedom from all of that.”
  • “A woman is like a piece of candy – she must be covered to not let filth pollute her.”
  • “A man is like a stone, if you drop the stone in mud, you can wash it clean; however, a woman is like a piece of silk, if you drop it in mud it is forever soiled.”  
  • “Your husband is like your father except you bear children with him.”
  • “A woman needs “ta’deeb” (discipline) which is why Allah gave men the right to hit her, she is in her nature rebellious; therefore, the man who hits his wife honors her by keeping her “ala al sirat al mustaqueem” (on the righteous/straight path).

 

Yes, I was well versed in this rhetoric; it was instilled in me as a young girl.  I fell for it too. Click to keep reading!